Learning from Each Other

Being in a relationship, there are several things one can possibly do for nurturing one's relationship. Its important that both the partners understand each other for a compatible and strong bonding.

Its important that the partners on both the ends should have strong feelings for each other. Many a times, couples find it difficult to stick to each other despite being in love. While one of them is too patient, the other might be aggressive. Living in a nuclear family and packed with work, one may not find time to discuss the problems at home with an elder person and seek advice.



Observe & Learn from Each Other

You may not be an expert at solving problems, but your partner may be a complete show stealer. He or she may find solutions in a moment. Don't get bogged down by his or her expertise in doing anything, rather just observe quietly and learn the art of problem solving.

You could have be a zero tolerance attitude, but your partner might just be the coolest person in the entire world. Such a variation might be dangerous for a relationship. The best way one can work towards a smoother relationship is by learning various attributes from each other.

Keeping an Hour Aside for Each Other - Romantic Idea for the Busy & Married Couples

If romance & being together for each other was meant for weekends, then why would couples marry each other?? Busy with work and so many things happening around, many couples confess to spend time with each other only on weekends. But does that keeps your relationship steady and moreover 'SMOOTH'?

To nurture your relationship, just follow one RULE religiously to keep your love life intact forever.

The Rule is to -'Keep a Relaxed Hour Aside for Each Other'

You may defend yourself and say that every night while sleeping you spend time with each other. But that's not the time that we are referring to.

It is advisable that you mutually decide one hour from your busy schedule to be spend with each other. Make sure it is not the same time that you spend while making love at times at night.

An Hour for Each Other - The evening hour is the best time to be spent together.

Sit Together - Enjoy tea, coffee, soft drink or some nutritious snacks together. Take turns to prepare the food or drink for each other.

Talk and Spit out Everything You have in Mind - He or she is your partner and you can definitely confide almost everything in them.

Share yourself - While you are busy the entire day, you may not be able to call up and share something. Make use of this one hour and share all you wanted to since morning.
Share Jokes - Talk light and laugh with each other. You have had the entire day for everything serious around you, but this particular hour just make sure you laugh with each other. Share jokes or any old memories to feel light and relaxed.

Soaked in Love-Keeping Memories Fresh in Mind

Hope you had a wonderful kiss day, hug day and definitely a very special Valentine's day. Now that many special days have past and its time for you to preserve the memories of these days. Its important to value your love always and understand that how lucky your are to be someone's beloved. Days gone by will never come back. One will definitely enjoy the promise day, rose day and valentine's day next year, but will not be able to live the same moments again. Things may be better next time, but for that you need to wait for one long year. :)

Its been a raining love everywhere and your are soaked in love. All you need to do to cherish your love moments is to keep the memories fresh in mind. Just live the moment as it will never come again in life.

Promises to Keep

Meant to be broken, why do they hold an important place in any relationship? Whether its the relation of a couple in love or of a child and father, be it any relation, promises are a part of everyone's life. Here is a poem that I have loved for long and felt like sharing this today on Promise Day.

I promise to be your warm spot to cuddle up to
when you feel cold
I promise
to be your soft place to land if you
should fall
I promise to be the first
one to say I am sorry
(even if I was right)
I promise to be there for
you in all of your times of
joy and sorrow
I promise to support you no
matter what your
decision (even if I don't agree )
I promise to make a
new memory with you each
and every day
I promise to love you without change

I promise to make you laugh
I promise to make you cry
I promise to give
you strength when you are weak
I promise to love you forever
I promise
to cherish you and your love
I promise to compromise with you
I promise
to make you and our children my first
priority
I promise to never take
your love for granted
I promise to never lose faith in you
I promise to
never give you a reason to distrust me
I promise to always trust you
I promise to work with you to resolve our conflicts
I promise to always be
proud of you
I promise to never let you feel alone in this world
I promise
to find new ways everyday to keep the
fires of passion burning
I promise
to be the best mom I can to our children
I promise to always keep you as
an equal partner
I promise to never say things to you in anger
I promise
to be your partner for life
I promise to be your shelter from the storm

I promise you a love everlasting.

Making a promise on the Promise Day, ".......Together again

It would feel so good to be

In your arms

Where all my journeys end....."

Have a Happy 'Promise' Day!!

Rose Day Special - Let Love Bloom

There are times when your beloved is sad, there are times when no matter what happens you do not feel like smiling. But there is something that is sure to bring a smile back on your partner's face. Any guesses? Surely - its 'Roses'.


It's 7th of February and it is a 'ROSE day'. Rush to the nearest floweriest and get a bunch of roses. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is sad or angry with you, don't wait for things to settle down on their own. You need a pacifier and what can be better than roses. Just speak your heart out and tell each other how much your love and how incomplete you feel without one another.


Happy Rose Day!!

Weekend Romance Special-Enjoy Romance in Love Games

Has it been long since you felt like a kid? And the most important thing related to kids is playing. Can you recall that when was the last time you played any game? Blank!!! never mind. It happens with everyone and specially with couples without kids. But that doesn't mean you can't play and enjoy. Since its weekend, it's mandatory that both the partners share some romantic moments together.

Just let your romance buds bloom and your naught mind run wild. Enjoy this weekend playing games with spouse. You can choose any simple game and have fun. The twist in the game comes when you add a romantic touch to the game. Keep some rules and follow them religiously.

Here's how you play a LOVE GAME -

Choose a Game - you can choose any game. From cross words, mind games, cards, 1 minute puzzles, video games or any game for two.

Rules - Mutually decide the rules of the game.

Play - Start playing the game. Every time one looses the game, the other partner can give you a task to do.


Tasks - That's the twist that I was referring to. The partner may ask you to strip your clothes one by one. One can even ask to kiss or a smooch. The tasks can be decided on the spot or you may decide them before hand too.

THE FUN - Try playing any game and enjoy the fun. More than playing the game, you would love to win and loose it. So, just set the mood right for some love games this evening and enjoy your weekend in a special way with your spouse. Happy Playing!

Don't Take Professional Matters to Heart

Feeling heavy at heart because of all the scolding that you got from the boss today. Bosses expect a lot from their subordinate. They pressurize you when you they feel the pressure. That's what the bottom line is. Don't take professional matters to heart.

Weekend Romance Special - Winter The Season for Sex

It's Friday evening and weekend has almost begun. Its time to rev up your sexual life. Don't tell me that winter is something that keeps you away from indulging in love making. Rather winter is the ideal season to snuggle up each other in rugs and feel the warmth from one another.

Don't let weather play spoil sport in your sexual life. Make the most of the season and just enjoy your weekend in bed.

Relations & Rapport At Work - Tips for Handling Work Pressure

Well, when I talk about nurturing relations, it does not restrict me to talk about personal relations only. Apart from our family life, we spent a major share of time at work. And therefore it becomes almost mandatory to have healthy rapport with colleagues and definitely with the seniors.

But all gets shattered and shaken when we have are in a sea of work pressure, dieing to breathe and struggling hard to save ourselves from drowning. Immense work pressure and inability to handle it leaves a bad impression on your boss which actually affects the relation between them.

I had a bad day today at work, but then I ensured I remain calm to handle the mounting work pressure. Here I am sharing the tips that I followed to handle the work pressure.

Always Maintain a Professional Standpoint - Make sure you never lose your professionalism. Try maintaining a professional standpoint. Work the way you always do.

Do not Avoid Your Boss - Avoiding your boss may lead to more problems at work. In a situation when, you had a tiff with your boss, ensure that you do not avoid talking to them.

Never Decrease Your Production Level - The loss in production will all the more aggravate the anger of seniors and top guns. Remember however disturbed you are, never cut short on your production level.

Control Your Emotions - That's the key to handle any kind of work pressure. Sounds easy, but is actually more difficult than that. (Trust me even I am very bad at it). But if you can keep a control on your emotions both anger and tension, you know you have handled the situation well. Wish you never have a bad day at work. God Forbid, if you have tension at work - try these ways to handle excess work pressure.

Love Notes - To Keep The Romance Alive

Not just wonderful way to express your feelings for your sweetheart, LoVe NoTeS and even Love Letters are the most simplest way to keep romance intact. For many lovebirds, love letters have been replaced by a sms, a mail or even by a Facebook or Orkut scrapbook. But the real essence of romance comes only from a handwritten romantic notes on a piece of paper. Don't believe me? Just try these romantic love messages ideas to see the sparkle in her eyes.

Leave a Romantic Love Making Note in the Bathroom for Her - Tell her how eagerly you will wait for the evening when you can meet her for romantic love making evening.

Leave a Small Love Note Under Her Pillow for Her to See in the Morning - Use your imagination and describe how beautiful she looked while sleeping and how much you love her. Your small note will make a huge impact and will help your relationship nurture and strengthen.

A Love Phrase for Her in Her Purse - Quietly slip in a small love letter in her money purse. She would be all surprised and overwhelmed with this gesture. Try doing it, but make sure let it be a surprise. And be ready to receive a surprise call or message from her side too.


Keep Her Breakfast Ready with A Romantic Note - Give Her a Break from Everyday Chores and prepare breakfast for her. Just plug in a small love note with the breakfast. I can vouch for it that she would love you for the love letter more than for preparing the breakfast.

Tips for Tolerating His Temper

Men by nature are more aggressive than women. Exceptions are always there, but the hard core fact is that men are more short tempered than their female counterparts. Anger is common amongst men and many couples face the problem of handling anger in their relationship. Many wives and even girlfriends find it difficult to control their men when they flare up. Here are some quick tips to tolerate his temper and help him calm down.

Remain Calm When He is Loud & Angry - That's definitely the first and foremost thing. You must have a certain level of patience to do so. If the wife or girlfriend gets angry too while the husband or boyfriend is still angry, the situation is bound to go out of control.

Mutually Decide a Signal to Aware Him of His Anger - If your man has recognized and realized that he is short tempered and has a problem, then it has become actually easy for both of you to control it. May be both of you can work out a signal for his temper. Whenever he is angry and is almost ready to flare up, you can give him a signal. The signals may either be a song, a whistle or few pre-decided words.

Do not Tolerate His Temper Always - As I said earlier, that it is not wise to reply back or counter him whenever he gets angry. But friends, it is equally important for you to make him understand that he is wrong on his part. Do not make it a habit to tolerate his temper whether it is justified or a baseless one. The next time you boyfriend gets angry and aggressive, do not stay quiet or argue. Make it clear that he is wrong and just walk out of the room. Let him know that he has hurt you.

Nagging Nature - Warning Signs

Since I wrote about some warning signs for those in a relationship, I guess mentioning the warning signs of being a nagging girlfriend or wife would definitely be welcomed. To some extent I could relate myself with this subject as for past few months even I have transformed into a nagging girlfriend. But fortunately I was alarmed by my behavior myself before being told by my boyfriend.

Nagging in a relationship can actually be a barrier between the couples. It is for both the partners to understand that nagging by husband or the wives (mostly) can be justified at times. But nagging as a habit day and night is for sure a mood spoiler. Now before I prolong it any more, here are few signs for females to improve their behavior with their men.

You Call Your Boyfriend Every Hour for Some Chores - The moment he picks up phone, he says ' I remember I have to deposit money in the bank tomorrow'. You have been like a nagging wife or a girlfriend if this scenario relates to you. You are for sure on the roads of a nagging world if you call up your boyfriend every now and then to remind about some work.


Telling Him to Join Gym - He has been looking weak for some time and you think joining gymnasium would help him recover. Therefore you nag and nag. You never miss an opportunity to tell him its all because he does not exercise.

You Have Problem If He Sleeps Till late in the Morning - Rather than wishing him 'Good morning', you say - is this the time to get up? Girls by nature are more alert and prompt for their daily chores and activities. Therefore, they start nagging when they their partner is lazy or slow in his work. Most of the men complain of their wife's or girlfriend's behavior if the men sleep late till morning.

Complains are What Your Daily Telephonic Talks Comprise of - If you are a nagging wife, its very for you to figure this out. You need 'no warning sign'. It is evident. Evident from your conversation with your partner. All your telephonic conversation comprises of complains and you keep cribbing all the time.

You Do Not Miss a Chance to Point Out His Mistake - That becomes a girl's favorite pass-time. if you are a nagging girlfriend, you keep your brain's search engine working all the time to point out his mistakes. Whether small mistake or big blunder, you never ignore any of them.

You Keep Reminding Him of the Promise which He Could Not Keep Years Ago - It was a small promise that he could not keep and you have not forgiven him years later. Your nagging nature is evident from your behave, if you keep reminding him of his promise that he could keep.

It's an old saying that 'If you realize your mistake, you are almost forgiven.' So if you have discovered a nagging wife or girlfriend in yourself, you have taken the first step. All you need to do is work on it slowly BUT Steadily.

Possessive In a Relation - Few Warning Signs

Possessive - Does this word make you think of your boyfriend or girlfriend every time? Have I touched some corner of your heart with this question, read on if you nod in yes. While possessiveness at a very ground root level is good for a relation, the irony lies only when it goes beyond that. The possessive nature of a partner in a relationship turns out to be a burden for the person on the other end. The outcome henceforth is that the other partner struggles to get free of the relation. While insecurity is the basis of possessiveness and can be fatal for any relation.

Girls often complain, crib or praise their boyfriends for being too possessive for them. But over the past years, the ball has settled more in the other side of the court. And I would be biased if I say that its the men who are mostly possessive. That is, girls in a relationship have become more possessive for their male counterparts. Here are few warning signs for girls to indicate that you are being possessive. Take them seriously and avoid being a possessive lover.

Don't be Snoopy - Do not go searching about every detail about his old friends and search his mailbox.



You Keep a Minute-to-Minute Record of His Activities - Remaining in touch and maintaining proper communication is different. But, it is sheer possessiveness if you want to know every minute detail about his activities.

You Loose Your Temper If He Does Not Answer Your Call - Give him some space. For God's sake. He can be busy at work and even missing a call is human. Do not shout at him or get upset next time, if he is unable to respond to your phonecall.

It's Possessiveness if You Follow Him Everywhere - Save your relationship from dieing. Do not make it a habit of forcefully following him everywhere, whether to his office party or to shopping.

Quick, Easy and Special Halloween Gifts For Men - Weekend Special

Its Halloween today and it just struck me that I should gift something special to the man in my life - my boyfriend. Halloween though is not popular and isn't celebrated throughout the world, I feel there is no problem to choose it as a reason to have celebrations at home. After all, its weekend and everyone has the right to celebrate. While I opted for a sweet and special gift for my boyfriend, even you can rush to buy something that would make his weekend special. Here are some easy and attractive gifts ideas for Men on this Halloween.

Mini jack-o-lanterns Looking Fresh Strawberry - You can make them at home. They are easy to make and would definitely amaze your man. Treat him this weekend with these special strawberries. Just dip fresh strawberries in chocolate paste and nuts and garnish them to look like mini -jack-o-lanterns.

I bet your boyfriend or husband would love this special gift. Light some candles in your room and get into your romantic shoes to make his weekend really special. Serve him with mini jack-o-lanterns looking fresh strawberries.

Hot & Horror Movies Collection - Most men love to watch horror and hot movies. Just go to your near by shop and choose some really good horror movies. If you want just add in some hot movies CDs too.

Romance While House Warming

I was away for a week as I had to shift my house. That was the reason for the delay in posting. A week long house shifting process had kept me too occupied to spare time for myself. While packing and unwinding stuffs at home took most of my time, the rest of hours were lost in getting the interiors of the new house designed.

It does happen with all of us. And what is also common amongst us is that we hardly find time for romance while shifting our houses. But despite the fact that I was damn busy, I had my share of romantic moments. Thanks to my darling boyfriend. His romantic ideas stole my heart, obviously once again. Here are some of the romantic ideas that he tried during my house warming. You can try them too. Here they go....


Order Food & Enjoy a Candle Light Dinner - Your beloved must be tired packing or unpacking. Order her favorite food and keep it a surprise for her. Arrange a small table and decorate the room with some flowers and candles. Keep the table ready with delicious food. Surprise her and dine together. Soft instrumental music will add to the romantic mood of the room.


Rub Your Partner's Shoulders - Nothing feels greater than a small neck & shoulder massage when you are tired. Rub your partner's shoulder to make him or her relax. That is one of the ways of being romantic.



Pull Her to a Corner & Give Her a Warm Hug - Let your romantic soul come alive. Whenever you get time, look out for an opportunity when you can take her into your arms and take her to a corner. Kiss and hug her. Express your feelings to her. Honestly, girls love it when you are naughty.


Shower Her with Hugs & Kisses Every Now and Then - Your partner will not feel the stress of so much work both at home or outside, if you stand by his/ her side. Just shower your love and kisses at short intervals if you are near by. Your love and care will add sparks to your romantic life.

Go explore new ways of romancing. Whether married or unmarried, romance is necessary amongst couples. So set the mood and let romance be in air.

Is Sex More of a Task than Pleasure?

Did that leave you in thoughts for a while? If so, its human and happens with most of the people around us. For most of the married couples, sex becomes more of a task at some point in life and pleasure takes a back seat.

Most of the married couples would confide in saying that sex has become more of task for them. And ask them why, pat comes the reply because their partner wants sex and they just can't say 'no'. This situation is more common with women. After few years of marriage, they loose interest in sexual activities resulting in either a disturbed married life or just stretching their married life. When talking about women, you cannot rule out the possibility for the same for men. Many men also get bored of sex and make love just for the sake of doing it for their partner.



Why Does Sex Become a Task

Its more of Forced Sex Most of the Time - Thats the actual cause why it turns out to be a task. Anything that is forced on you tends to become a task that you need to complete. It happens so with sex too. Amongst married couples, initially sex is forced on woman by the man. Any woman does not like it and hence what results is a forced activity that becomes a task for her.

Monotony in Sex - Lack of knowledge about sex brings in stagnation and a major cause to loose interest in the same. Everyone likes excitement, pleasant surprises and a sense of newness. Sexual activities carried out in the same way without any thrills actually make it monotonous for many.

One of the Partners is More Demanding - Pleasure takes a backseat in sexual activities when either the male or female has a bent for sex. Though its not forced sex, but if one of the partners becomes more demanding, the other has to at times indulge in sex unwillingly.

Sex is Just Not About Intercourse, There is More To It - And that is foreplay and afterplay. Its important as it keeps the excitement level high. One needs to be involved in some or the other kind of foreplay rather than bumping into each other for intercourse. And post intercourse, afterplay is also vital. This helps in building a strong bond between the couples and keeping the fire alive.

Responding to Body's Physical Needs, Despite of Shortage of Time for Each Other - Every man or woman's bodies have their needs that need to be satisfied. That is the case in many couples. Though one does not have much time for each other, it becomes almost necessary to fulfill sexual needs of your own body. Shortage of time then leads you to spend less time with your partner. And then makes making love a task for you.

Anger - The Last Word in a Relationship

Short tempered by nature, I have had the taste of loss in a relationship due to my anger. Being in a state finding it difficult to control my anger, I have often paid the price for it.

Talking about anger, its important that we speculate and find out the reasons behind our anger. Below are the few reasons that actually disappoint boys and girls and irritate them to the extenet of getting angry.

• 'No' to AnyThing of Desire
• Rude Behaviour of Partner
• Acceptance And Later Denial of Anything
• Preaching of the Partner
• Ignorance

Patching up After Fights

It's difficult for some, whereas easy for others. But what counts at the end of the day is that it should happen - patching up. Couples married or unmarried find it extremely difficult to patch up after fights.

At times, its the ego between the individuals, at times the situations. Here is how you can patch up with your spouse after fights. These are tried and tested waysw that have really worked, at least for me. I am sure these will work for you too.... Here they go..

When You Have Fought - Just Keep ur Ego Aside - Try hard not to involve this three alphabet letter to have a room in ur relationship. Ego between couples can be dangerous.

Say Sorry - Just Say It - sorry is the simplest and the easiest way that will help you patch up with your love of life.

But Initiate - But remember to initiate as this is important. This will help you gain respect in the eyes of your partner. God Firbid, if you fight again, next time your partner might be saying sorry to you first.

Forget Your Grudges - Don't waste your time in speculation and grudges. Whatever misunderstanding you have, whatever problems you face, just forget.

Once Fought, Do Not Let The Fight Stay With You - Couples often fight and then do not talk for hours. Its common and was the same case with me too. When I used to have fight with my boyfriend, I remember not talkingto him for hours and even days. But thanks to boyfriend, I learnt how not to make the fights serious and traumatic. He is a darling and always advised me that we should keep our fights aside. And thats his piece of brain that I am offering as an advice to everyone.

I do not say that you should forget the reason for the fight, rather you should forget the fight and behave completely normal. Just be yourself, as if nothing happened. Trust me, this will make your relationship a special one..

Bored With Him, Yet in Love - Start AFresh

Me and my boyfriend have been in love for the past four and half years. Despite the fact that we almost fought 24 hrs on telephone, we were madly in love with each other. But there was a time when we were almost bored of each other. Boring telephonic conversations, blame game, rifts and sleepless nights, that's all we were left with.

Though an unmarried couple, we never flirted with each other or ever wanted to freak out with each other. There had been instances when we were on verge of break up, but could not because we simply DO NOT WANT TO. At the same time, we wanted to feel the taste of happiness and contentment. This was when me and my boyfriend decided to Start Fresh on Our Relation. A few changes that we adopted to were boon in disguise. Here is how we started fresh to nurture OUR Relationship..

We Began Ignoring Each Other's Mistakes - That laid the cornerstone of rejuvenating our relationship. We followed the mantra -"To Forgive is Divine" and did not pay much heed to small mistakes.



Kept A Day Exclusively for Each Other - A day for each other was kept aside. We almost tried to spend the day hours together. We chatted, shopped, exercised, ate and laughed with each other. Swimming together and sharing jokes was what both of us loved doing.

It Was Time to Say Bye to Longish Telephonic Conversation - Phones though are the best way to remain in touch. But often, telephonic conversation lead to mis-communication. It happened with us also. Unable to see each other talking and the expression, we often misunderstood each other and has a fight. Therefore, cutting down our telephonic conversation short was a great idea.


We Dined Together Almost Thrice A Week - We are neither married nor are in a live-in relationship. Both of us just stay miles away from each other. Therefore we planned to eat together at night. Since it was not possible every night, we chose to have our dinner together on every alternate day. Dining together did wonders to our dying relation. We discussed everything face-to-face and trust me it was better than talking on phone.

Developed Interests in Each Other's Interests - Being very different from each other, we had different interests. To understand each other better and respect each other choices, we carefully observed each other to find our interests. I love reading English novel and interacting with people. And he loves music, dancing and sleeping.

It was completely a joyous feeling to explore others interests and learn something new. He read several books and chatted with my friends. I definitely reciprocated by listening to his favorite songs, joining dancing classes and definitely sleeping for long hours. Today, we agree that it gave us immense pleasure to do so.

All our efforts paid. And here WE Are - Smiling, Sharing, Relaxed, Energetic, Flirtatious, Passionate and definitely not Bored..

His One Liners That Disturb Me The Most

Women are soft by nature. Though they can easily handle some serious issues, it might not be the same with something minute. Even a rude gesture or unexpected refusal on an trivial matter may disturb her and take away her peace of mind.

Women get disturbed mostly with badly framed sentences, especially one liners. If you were to ask a man about any of his one-liners that he thought might be disturbing him, he would be clueless. Or he might just say that he never said something that bad.



That's why I thought it was always better to ask women. And this what some of the women answered on being asked - "what is your boyfriend or husband's one-liner that disturb you the most?" Pat came the replies, that are -

-> His All-time Favorite Remains to be - "So Now I need to take even my decisions according to you."

-> Hard to Hear - " I was never like this before." He almost seem to say that I have made his life a hell.

-> "Teach and Preach Only After You get A Degree for It."

-> "Don't You have Another Work Left."

-> "It's None of Your Concern."

-> "Why Do You Keep Scolding me All the Time? Am I a Kid to be Taken Care of?"

-> "It's Not Possible For Me, Ever."

-> "You Have Been Dominating Me for So Many Years."

-> "Why the Hell Did You Do that? I am Happy With My living Style."

-> "Why Will You Care About Me? Who Am I?"

-> "You Will Never Understand me?"

When men say these lines or something similar, very little do they think about its effect. Wish they realized.... !!!