Learning from Each Other

Being in a relationship, there are several things one can possibly do for nurturing one's relationship. Its important that both the partners understand each other for a compatible and strong bonding.

Its important that the partners on both the ends should have strong feelings for each other. Many a times, couples find it difficult to stick to each other despite being in love. While one of them is too patient, the other might be aggressive. Living in a nuclear family and packed with work, one may not find time to discuss the problems at home with an elder person and seek advice.



Observe & Learn from Each Other

You may not be an expert at solving problems, but your partner may be a complete show stealer. He or she may find solutions in a moment. Don't get bogged down by his or her expertise in doing anything, rather just observe quietly and learn the art of problem solving.

You could have be a zero tolerance attitude, but your partner might just be the coolest person in the entire world. Such a variation might be dangerous for a relationship. The best way one can work towards a smoother relationship is by learning various attributes from each other.

Keeping an Hour Aside for Each Other - Romantic Idea for the Busy & Married Couples

If romance & being together for each other was meant for weekends, then why would couples marry each other?? Busy with work and so many things happening around, many couples confess to spend time with each other only on weekends. But does that keeps your relationship steady and moreover 'SMOOTH'?

To nurture your relationship, just follow one RULE religiously to keep your love life intact forever.

The Rule is to -'Keep a Relaxed Hour Aside for Each Other'

You may defend yourself and say that every night while sleeping you spend time with each other. But that's not the time that we are referring to.

It is advisable that you mutually decide one hour from your busy schedule to be spend with each other. Make sure it is not the same time that you spend while making love at times at night.

An Hour for Each Other - The evening hour is the best time to be spent together.

Sit Together - Enjoy tea, coffee, soft drink or some nutritious snacks together. Take turns to prepare the food or drink for each other.

Talk and Spit out Everything You have in Mind - He or she is your partner and you can definitely confide almost everything in them.

Share yourself - While you are busy the entire day, you may not be able to call up and share something. Make use of this one hour and share all you wanted to since morning.
Share Jokes - Talk light and laugh with each other. You have had the entire day for everything serious around you, but this particular hour just make sure you laugh with each other. Share jokes or any old memories to feel light and relaxed.

Promises to Keep

Meant to be broken, why do they hold an important place in any relationship? Whether its the relation of a couple in love or of a child and father, be it any relation, promises are a part of everyone's life. Here is a poem that I have loved for long and felt like sharing this today on Promise Day.

I promise to be your warm spot to cuddle up to
when you feel cold
I promise
to be your soft place to land if you
should fall
I promise to be the first
one to say I am sorry
(even if I was right)
I promise to be there for
you in all of your times of
joy and sorrow
I promise to support you no
matter what your
decision (even if I don't agree )
I promise to make a
new memory with you each
and every day
I promise to love you without change

I promise to make you laugh
I promise to make you cry
I promise to give
you strength when you are weak
I promise to love you forever
I promise
to cherish you and your love
I promise to compromise with you
I promise
to make you and our children my first
priority
I promise to never take
your love for granted
I promise to never lose faith in you
I promise to
never give you a reason to distrust me
I promise to always trust you
I promise to work with you to resolve our conflicts
I promise to always be
proud of you
I promise to never let you feel alone in this world
I promise
to find new ways everyday to keep the
fires of passion burning
I promise
to be the best mom I can to our children
I promise to always keep you as
an equal partner
I promise to never say things to you in anger
I promise
to be your partner for life
I promise to be your shelter from the storm

I promise you a love everlasting.

Making a promise on the Promise Day, ".......Together again

It would feel so good to be

In your arms

Where all my journeys end....."

Have a Happy 'Promise' Day!!

Rose Day Special - Let Love Bloom

There are times when your beloved is sad, there are times when no matter what happens you do not feel like smiling. But there is something that is sure to bring a smile back on your partner's face. Any guesses? Surely - its 'Roses'.


It's 7th of February and it is a 'ROSE day'. Rush to the nearest floweriest and get a bunch of roses. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is sad or angry with you, don't wait for things to settle down on their own. You need a pacifier and what can be better than roses. Just speak your heart out and tell each other how much your love and how incomplete you feel without one another.


Happy Rose Day!!

Weekend Romance Special-Enjoy Romance in Love Games

Has it been long since you felt like a kid? And the most important thing related to kids is playing. Can you recall that when was the last time you played any game? Blank!!! never mind. It happens with everyone and specially with couples without kids. But that doesn't mean you can't play and enjoy. Since its weekend, it's mandatory that both the partners share some romantic moments together.

Just let your romance buds bloom and your naught mind run wild. Enjoy this weekend playing games with spouse. You can choose any simple game and have fun. The twist in the game comes when you add a romantic touch to the game. Keep some rules and follow them religiously.

Here's how you play a LOVE GAME -

Choose a Game - you can choose any game. From cross words, mind games, cards, 1 minute puzzles, video games or any game for two.

Rules - Mutually decide the rules of the game.

Play - Start playing the game. Every time one looses the game, the other partner can give you a task to do.


Tasks - That's the twist that I was referring to. The partner may ask you to strip your clothes one by one. One can even ask to kiss or a smooch. The tasks can be decided on the spot or you may decide them before hand too.

THE FUN - Try playing any game and enjoy the fun. More than playing the game, you would love to win and loose it. So, just set the mood right for some love games this evening and enjoy your weekend in a special way with your spouse. Happy Playing!

Talking to Each Other on Bedside

Busy is he and busy is me, then where do we find glee? A problem common amongst couples especially in urban lifestyle. If you have been in years of relationship, then it gets difficult at times to find new ways to express your love. At times, you feel completely lost and don't know how to be romantic despite wanting to do so.

Being romantic is not just offering gifts, giving surprises or making love to your partner. There is much more to it. On that note, couples would admit to the fact that 'the most important thing in romance is spending time with each other'. Its a month of love and that's why some special ways to make each other feel special. Here is another romantic idea for all couples.



Relax and Talk
Often on weekend, couples wake up early or late in hurry to finish off chores. Be different this weekend. Just finish your pending chores a night before so that you have a peaceful mind. When you wake up next morning, don't get up instantly. Lie on your bedside and chat for hours. Don't discuss work or relatives. Just ensure that you feel for your partner and speak your heart out. Tell each other that it was long since you wanted to be with your beloved and how you feel at the moment. Talking on bedside while lying close to one another will rejuvenate you.

Talk all Night Long
Couples often make love and feel they have been romantic enough. But next day, they feel no different and do not feel refreshed. Having sex often is not always satisfying. It becomes more of a job. Then just let your tight knots go loose. Keep yourself ready for a night to talk. Just talk to each other on bedside. Share jokes and laugh with each other... Set the mood right for a romantic night with soothing lights and some snacks on your side tables. ...Try this romantic idea for your beloved. Don't forget to share your experience with us.. Talk to each other on Bedside... Happy Romantic Talking.. :)

Loving Him Inside Out

You thought he is no more the same guy that you married. Some may also end up concluding that their boyfriend has changed a lot and feels so different. Its no more the same bonding and love between the two of You.

Ignore the thought that has held you so hard for long. Forget the way he was earlier. May be its the responsibilities, may be its his career that has needs more attention. And that is why he has been so different all this while. Look at the positive aspect of the entire scenario - He relies on YOU so much. You hold an important place in his life and that is why he thinks he can be the way he wants to be.

Just give this point a deep thought and see how your life changes for good. Accept him with the way he is and just 'Love him inside out.'

A Month of Love

I often hear people saying that valentine's day is nothing special for them. For them, everyday is a valentine's day, every day is a day for him or her everyday is a day for love...bla bla bla bla.... I never disagree but to some extent. For me, everyday is a day of love, but this day is definitely special. Special!! Why?? Special because this day I make sure at least on this day I do not hurt him or anyone around me. It's a day of love and I ensure that I don't do anything that makes anyone sad.

If you agree with me or have the same opinion as mine, then follow me here for some love special posts for the entire month of February. You may think, as why did I start three days in advance. A simple reason - February just has 28 days and I wanted to make this month of love complete with 31 days.

So just get ready for some notes, tips and feelings dipped in love. No regrets, no complaints, no negative shades of life and lifestyle. It would be raining love the entire month. Therefore, just hold your heart tight and make sure you don't fall in love by the end of February. With Love :)

Weekend Romance Special - Winter The Season for Sex

It's Friday evening and weekend has almost begun. Its time to rev up your sexual life. Don't tell me that winter is something that keeps you away from indulging in love making. Rather winter is the ideal season to snuggle up each other in rugs and feel the warmth from one another.

Don't let weather play spoil sport in your sexual life. Make the most of the season and just enjoy your weekend in bed.

Shouting at Her Infront of Others

Don't suppress her so much that she loses her self respect. Neither do anything that makes her feel ashamed in front of others.

Simply wanted to say those lines before beginning on what I have to say today. Abusing her would be definitely a wrong word to use, rather lets keep it short and simple as 'shouting'. Many men in relationship have the habit of shouting loud at their female counterparts. While doing so, they never realize that it might affect his beloved and also her feelings.


What Men Never Think?

Whether you have a reason or you don't, but usage of harsh words and loud tone definitely have their impact. But, not always for the good. Shouting in a relationship is not bad. But what matters is that you need to keep a check in the way you react. This time I do not want to tell you what to do, rather would love it if you suggest me, what should be done.

Weekend Romance Special - Places for Quick Love Making

Let this weekend be different. Normally we look for a weekend to spend some great time with our beloved. For live-in couples and husband-wives, weekends come as a boon and they love to indulge in more relaxed love making activities. But why do we need to stick to this rule always? Let this weekend be dedicated to quick love making. Sounds Fun? Its Got to be....

Here are some quickies for you. Try making love at these places. I bet you would cherish this weekend memories for ever. Here they go...

At the Terrace in Moonlight - Nothing can be more romantic than making love to your partner in moonlight. Go for a stroll at the terrace and find a corner quickly to make love to your beloved. A hot love making session would definitely leave you sweating while cool breeze makes you more passionate.


In Your Study Room - Most of the people would not like this idea but it was something that was suggested by my close friend. She shared her experience of suddenly slipping into her hubby's studyroom while he was busy at work. She also said, she had one of the nest love making experience in the studyroom. While studying, one tends to be most engrossed and disturbing you partner in such a situation can be fun at times.

In the Corridor - Do it, only when you don't have anyone else at home. Get some cozy mattress and light a candle while you keep the nightlamps switched off. Play some romantic music that would surely add to the mood. Corridor as love making spot can give you sense of freedom that is not so in confined rooms.

In Her Changing Room - Many of the us have a small corner in our homes for changing clothes (especially for women). This weekend, don't miss the chance to seduce her while dresses and undresses herself in the changing room. Start slow and later move fast. The limitation of having lesser space might just give you both more pleasure than any where else.

Tips for Tolerating His Temper

Men by nature are more aggressive than women. Exceptions are always there, but the hard core fact is that men are more short tempered than their female counterparts. Anger is common amongst men and many couples face the problem of handling anger in their relationship. Many wives and even girlfriends find it difficult to control their men when they flare up. Here are some quick tips to tolerate his temper and help him calm down.

Remain Calm When He is Loud & Angry - That's definitely the first and foremost thing. You must have a certain level of patience to do so. If the wife or girlfriend gets angry too while the husband or boyfriend is still angry, the situation is bound to go out of control.

Mutually Decide a Signal to Aware Him of His Anger - If your man has recognized and realized that he is short tempered and has a problem, then it has become actually easy for both of you to control it. May be both of you can work out a signal for his temper. Whenever he is angry and is almost ready to flare up, you can give him a signal. The signals may either be a song, a whistle or few pre-decided words.

Do not Tolerate His Temper Always - As I said earlier, that it is not wise to reply back or counter him whenever he gets angry. But friends, it is equally important for you to make him understand that he is wrong on his part. Do not make it a habit to tolerate his temper whether it is justified or a baseless one. The next time you boyfriend gets angry and aggressive, do not stay quiet or argue. Make it clear that he is wrong and just walk out of the room. Let him know that he has hurt you.

Nagging Nature - Warning Signs

Since I wrote about some warning signs for those in a relationship, I guess mentioning the warning signs of being a nagging girlfriend or wife would definitely be welcomed. To some extent I could relate myself with this subject as for past few months even I have transformed into a nagging girlfriend. But fortunately I was alarmed by my behavior myself before being told by my boyfriend.

Nagging in a relationship can actually be a barrier between the couples. It is for both the partners to understand that nagging by husband or the wives (mostly) can be justified at times. But nagging as a habit day and night is for sure a mood spoiler. Now before I prolong it any more, here are few signs for females to improve their behavior with their men.

You Call Your Boyfriend Every Hour for Some Chores - The moment he picks up phone, he says ' I remember I have to deposit money in the bank tomorrow'. You have been like a nagging wife or a girlfriend if this scenario relates to you. You are for sure on the roads of a nagging world if you call up your boyfriend every now and then to remind about some work.


Telling Him to Join Gym - He has been looking weak for some time and you think joining gymnasium would help him recover. Therefore you nag and nag. You never miss an opportunity to tell him its all because he does not exercise.

You Have Problem If He Sleeps Till late in the Morning - Rather than wishing him 'Good morning', you say - is this the time to get up? Girls by nature are more alert and prompt for their daily chores and activities. Therefore, they start nagging when they their partner is lazy or slow in his work. Most of the men complain of their wife's or girlfriend's behavior if the men sleep late till morning.

Complains are What Your Daily Telephonic Talks Comprise of - If you are a nagging wife, its very for you to figure this out. You need 'no warning sign'. It is evident. Evident from your conversation with your partner. All your telephonic conversation comprises of complains and you keep cribbing all the time.

You Do Not Miss a Chance to Point Out His Mistake - That becomes a girl's favorite pass-time. if you are a nagging girlfriend, you keep your brain's search engine working all the time to point out his mistakes. Whether small mistake or big blunder, you never ignore any of them.

You Keep Reminding Him of the Promise which He Could Not Keep Years Ago - It was a small promise that he could not keep and you have not forgiven him years later. Your nagging nature is evident from your behave, if you keep reminding him of his promise that he could keep.

It's an old saying that 'If you realize your mistake, you are almost forgiven.' So if you have discovered a nagging wife or girlfriend in yourself, you have taken the first step. All you need to do is work on it slowly BUT Steadily.

Possessive In a Relation - Few Warning Signs

Possessive - Does this word make you think of your boyfriend or girlfriend every time? Have I touched some corner of your heart with this question, read on if you nod in yes. While possessiveness at a very ground root level is good for a relation, the irony lies only when it goes beyond that. The possessive nature of a partner in a relationship turns out to be a burden for the person on the other end. The outcome henceforth is that the other partner struggles to get free of the relation. While insecurity is the basis of possessiveness and can be fatal for any relation.

Girls often complain, crib or praise their boyfriends for being too possessive for them. But over the past years, the ball has settled more in the other side of the court. And I would be biased if I say that its the men who are mostly possessive. That is, girls in a relationship have become more possessive for their male counterparts. Here are few warning signs for girls to indicate that you are being possessive. Take them seriously and avoid being a possessive lover.

Don't be Snoopy - Do not go searching about every detail about his old friends and search his mailbox.



You Keep a Minute-to-Minute Record of His Activities - Remaining in touch and maintaining proper communication is different. But, it is sheer possessiveness if you want to know every minute detail about his activities.

You Loose Your Temper If He Does Not Answer Your Call - Give him some space. For God's sake. He can be busy at work and even missing a call is human. Do not shout at him or get upset next time, if he is unable to respond to your phonecall.

It's Possessiveness if You Follow Him Everywhere - Save your relationship from dieing. Do not make it a habit of forcefully following him everywhere, whether to his office party or to shopping.

Busy in Festivals - No Time for Your Spouse

Its festive season and you have been busy doing your household chores religiously. Shopping, decoration, buying gifts, cooking and inviting guests at home - all this keeps you packed the whole day. Amidst all this, you rarely find time for your spouse. He or she is the one who is left unattended. And it is needless to say that you hardly think of romance during festivals.

You have been following this schedule for years now. But did you ever realize that your spouse might be feeling left out. Give it a thought and stay tuned for next post that says - 'Romance During Festivals Adds to Celebration'.

Play the Tourist For Her - Weekend Romance Specials

Weekends are special and they should remain that way. But your small inputs will make the weekends more special. Discover the all new way of romance. If your wife or girlfriend loves to travel, what can be better that spending the weekend traveling and staying at a hotel. Just take her out to visit the city or nearby tourist spots. There can be a number of places she may not have been to. Feel her nerve and plan this special weekend to lighten up romance in life.

Keep It a Surprise - The first rule when you plan a weekend is to keep it a surprise. Surprise in romance is very special to keep the charm intact.

Romantic Idea for the Busy

Busy is always the buzzword for most people these days. While life has become so much mechanical and selfish, no one has much time to spend on romance and lighter moments with your spouse. Forget about love, even love making has become a task for many couples. But despite all odds the challenge lies in keep the fire of love alive in each other. Its important for you to make him/ her feel special and show that you care so much. If you are busy and do not have much time to express your love for your special one, just try the following tips. Just feel the love in the air.

Greet Each Other With A Hug & Kiss - A hug reflects your warmth for your beloved. just give your partner a peck on cheeks whenever you go from or return to home. Such a gesture makes one feel wanted and special.

Spend few Bugs on Cards or Roses for Her - Try sending a bunch of roses and her/ him. They won't cost you much, but mean a lot. Call up a nearby delivery guy and ask him to deliver some red roses to your wife or husband. Or at times buy a meaningful greeting car on your way back home. Send it your spouse. Smiles received on such unexpected gesture of yours would definitely pay back the money spend on them.

Make Breakfast for Her - Married working men can easily please their wives by making breakfast for them at times. One can do that once or twice a week. Whenever it suits you whether weekend or on weekdays, make sure to get up earlier than your beloved and prepare the breakfast. You are bound to brighten her morning as soon as she notices the breakfast.

Short Massages while Working at Home - Your touch makes a difference to your partner. During your busy schedule, just sit next to him or her and give a short massage either for feet, shoulder or just some hair oil massage. Your few minutes of massage takes off the stress.



Cuddle Each Other - Find time to just cuddle each other either on a couch while watching television or working on any office assignment. Make sure not to disturb the partner who is working but just sit or lie next to him/ her. Let the other feel that he or she is loved and needed.

Call up to Say that You Miss Him/ Her - Give a short call within minutes of reaching office to say that you miss her or him. During your busy day pick your mobile and call up and have a few minutes of talk. Romantic text messages are the perfect ideas while you are at work.

Is Sex More of a Task than Pleasure?

Did that leave you in thoughts for a while? If so, its human and happens with most of the people around us. For most of the married couples, sex becomes more of a task at some point in life and pleasure takes a back seat.

Most of the married couples would confide in saying that sex has become more of task for them. And ask them why, pat comes the reply because their partner wants sex and they just can't say 'no'. This situation is more common with women. After few years of marriage, they loose interest in sexual activities resulting in either a disturbed married life or just stretching their married life. When talking about women, you cannot rule out the possibility for the same for men. Many men also get bored of sex and make love just for the sake of doing it for their partner.



Why Does Sex Become a Task

Its more of Forced Sex Most of the Time - Thats the actual cause why it turns out to be a task. Anything that is forced on you tends to become a task that you need to complete. It happens so with sex too. Amongst married couples, initially sex is forced on woman by the man. Any woman does not like it and hence what results is a forced activity that becomes a task for her.

Monotony in Sex - Lack of knowledge about sex brings in stagnation and a major cause to loose interest in the same. Everyone likes excitement, pleasant surprises and a sense of newness. Sexual activities carried out in the same way without any thrills actually make it monotonous for many.

One of the Partners is More Demanding - Pleasure takes a backseat in sexual activities when either the male or female has a bent for sex. Though its not forced sex, but if one of the partners becomes more demanding, the other has to at times indulge in sex unwillingly.

Sex is Just Not About Intercourse, There is More To It - And that is foreplay and afterplay. Its important as it keeps the excitement level high. One needs to be involved in some or the other kind of foreplay rather than bumping into each other for intercourse. And post intercourse, afterplay is also vital. This helps in building a strong bond between the couples and keeping the fire alive.

Responding to Body's Physical Needs, Despite of Shortage of Time for Each Other - Every man or woman's bodies have their needs that need to be satisfied. That is the case in many couples. Though one does not have much time for each other, it becomes almost necessary to fulfill sexual needs of your own body. Shortage of time then leads you to spend less time with your partner. And then makes making love a task for you.

Sarcasm In A Relationship - Keep It At Bay

Your relationship is at stake, if you involve a lot of sarcasm in your talks. Men have a lot of ego that is basically woven into their nature. No offenses to anyone, but they have this habit of commenting sarcastically on everything around.

If my views are to be taken into account, then sarcasm is one of the few things that will surely put an end to a relationship. Though sarcasm is just a form of commenting on anything rather than joking, it has more of negativity involved when used in a relationship.


Men though do not mean much when they pass a sarcastic comment on their partner, but at the same time it is also true that they hardly realize the impact of their words. For them, it might be a joke but it's possible that person on the receiving end might not like it resulting in rise of repercussions. Taking instance of a married couple, often the husband enjoys giving a witty remark on his wife's parents. While some women have learned to take it easily, others get hurt.

Being just a sneering or cutting remark, I do not say sarcasm should not be a part of life, but definitely one should watch their words and MORE THAN THAT THEIR TONE of saying anything sarcastically. After all your relationship might be at stake.

His One Liners That Disturb Me The Most

Women are soft by nature. Though they can easily handle some serious issues, it might not be the same with something minute. Even a rude gesture or unexpected refusal on an trivial matter may disturb her and take away her peace of mind.

Women get disturbed mostly with badly framed sentences, especially one liners. If you were to ask a man about any of his one-liners that he thought might be disturbing him, he would be clueless. Or he might just say that he never said something that bad.



That's why I thought it was always better to ask women. And this what some of the women answered on being asked - "what is your boyfriend or husband's one-liner that disturb you the most?" Pat came the replies, that are -

-> His All-time Favorite Remains to be - "So Now I need to take even my decisions according to you."

-> Hard to Hear - " I was never like this before." He almost seem to say that I have made his life a hell.

-> "Teach and Preach Only After You get A Degree for It."

-> "Don't You have Another Work Left."

-> "It's None of Your Concern."

-> "Why Do You Keep Scolding me All the Time? Am I a Kid to be Taken Care of?"

-> "It's Not Possible For Me, Ever."

-> "You Have Been Dominating Me for So Many Years."

-> "Why the Hell Did You Do that? I am Happy With My living Style."

-> "Why Will You Care About Me? Who Am I?"

-> "You Will Never Understand me?"

When men say these lines or something similar, very little do they think about its effect. Wish they realized.... !!!