Be a Santa This Christmas

Since its Christmas, it had to be BIG and BLITHE.... Lets join hands to celebrate the day with happiness, bells, jingles, cakes and balloons. Leaving all our grudges aside and tensions at bay, come together and join in the celebration of fun and frolic. Be a Santa this Christmas, call your friends and plan a party. As parents, just get into the shoes of kids and enjoy the day with them, like them.

If you have annoyed someone and have had a rift with anyone, this is the time. Just let the knot loose and notice it unfold itself. Just take a first step towards your loved ones whom you have hurt some time and notice JESUS move his magic wand.


Spread Happiness around and have a very Happy and Joyous Christmas. Here is Chivalrous Clan wishing A MERRY CHRISTMAS to everyone here.

Shouting at Her Infront of Others

Don't suppress her so much that she loses her self respect. Neither do anything that makes her feel ashamed in front of others.

Simply wanted to say those lines before beginning on what I have to say today. Abusing her would be definitely a wrong word to use, rather lets keep it short and simple as 'shouting'. Many men in relationship have the habit of shouting loud at their female counterparts. While doing so, they never realize that it might affect his beloved and also her feelings.


What Men Never Think?

Whether you have a reason or you don't, but usage of harsh words and loud tone definitely have their impact. But, not always for the good. Shouting in a relationship is not bad. But what matters is that you need to keep a check in the way you react. This time I do not want to tell you what to do, rather would love it if you suggest me, what should be done.

Weekend Romance Special - Places for Quick Love Making

Let this weekend be different. Normally we look for a weekend to spend some great time with our beloved. For live-in couples and husband-wives, weekends come as a boon and they love to indulge in more relaxed love making activities. But why do we need to stick to this rule always? Let this weekend be dedicated to quick love making. Sounds Fun? Its Got to be....

Here are some quickies for you. Try making love at these places. I bet you would cherish this weekend memories for ever. Here they go...

At the Terrace in Moonlight - Nothing can be more romantic than making love to your partner in moonlight. Go for a stroll at the terrace and find a corner quickly to make love to your beloved. A hot love making session would definitely leave you sweating while cool breeze makes you more passionate.


In Your Study Room - Most of the people would not like this idea but it was something that was suggested by my close friend. She shared her experience of suddenly slipping into her hubby's studyroom while he was busy at work. She also said, she had one of the nest love making experience in the studyroom. While studying, one tends to be most engrossed and disturbing you partner in such a situation can be fun at times.

In the Corridor - Do it, only when you don't have anyone else at home. Get some cozy mattress and light a candle while you keep the nightlamps switched off. Play some romantic music that would surely add to the mood. Corridor as love making spot can give you sense of freedom that is not so in confined rooms.

In Her Changing Room - Many of the us have a small corner in our homes for changing clothes (especially for women). This weekend, don't miss the chance to seduce her while dresses and undresses herself in the changing room. Start slow and later move fast. The limitation of having lesser space might just give you both more pleasure than any where else.

Relations & Rapport At Work - Tips for Handling Work Pressure

Well, when I talk about nurturing relations, it does not restrict me to talk about personal relations only. Apart from our family life, we spent a major share of time at work. And therefore it becomes almost mandatory to have healthy rapport with colleagues and definitely with the seniors.

But all gets shattered and shaken when we have are in a sea of work pressure, dieing to breathe and struggling hard to save ourselves from drowning. Immense work pressure and inability to handle it leaves a bad impression on your boss which actually affects the relation between them.

I had a bad day today at work, but then I ensured I remain calm to handle the mounting work pressure. Here I am sharing the tips that I followed to handle the work pressure.

Always Maintain a Professional Standpoint - Make sure you never lose your professionalism. Try maintaining a professional standpoint. Work the way you always do.

Do not Avoid Your Boss - Avoiding your boss may lead to more problems at work. In a situation when, you had a tiff with your boss, ensure that you do not avoid talking to them.

Never Decrease Your Production Level - The loss in production will all the more aggravate the anger of seniors and top guns. Remember however disturbed you are, never cut short on your production level.

Control Your Emotions - That's the key to handle any kind of work pressure. Sounds easy, but is actually more difficult than that. (Trust me even I am very bad at it). But if you can keep a control on your emotions both anger and tension, you know you have handled the situation well. Wish you never have a bad day at work. God Forbid, if you have tension at work - try these ways to handle excess work pressure.

Love Notes - To Keep The Romance Alive

Not just wonderful way to express your feelings for your sweetheart, LoVe NoTeS and even Love Letters are the most simplest way to keep romance intact. For many lovebirds, love letters have been replaced by a sms, a mail or even by a Facebook or Orkut scrapbook. But the real essence of romance comes only from a handwritten romantic notes on a piece of paper. Don't believe me? Just try these romantic love messages ideas to see the sparkle in her eyes.

Leave a Romantic Love Making Note in the Bathroom for Her - Tell her how eagerly you will wait for the evening when you can meet her for romantic love making evening.

Leave a Small Love Note Under Her Pillow for Her to See in the Morning - Use your imagination and describe how beautiful she looked while sleeping and how much you love her. Your small note will make a huge impact and will help your relationship nurture and strengthen.

A Love Phrase for Her in Her Purse - Quietly slip in a small love letter in her money purse. She would be all surprised and overwhelmed with this gesture. Try doing it, but make sure let it be a surprise. And be ready to receive a surprise call or message from her side too.


Keep Her Breakfast Ready with A Romantic Note - Give Her a Break from Everyday Chores and prepare breakfast for her. Just plug in a small love note with the breakfast. I can vouch for it that she would love you for the love letter more than for preparing the breakfast.

Tips for Tolerating His Temper

Men by nature are more aggressive than women. Exceptions are always there, but the hard core fact is that men are more short tempered than their female counterparts. Anger is common amongst men and many couples face the problem of handling anger in their relationship. Many wives and even girlfriends find it difficult to control their men when they flare up. Here are some quick tips to tolerate his temper and help him calm down.

Remain Calm When He is Loud & Angry - That's definitely the first and foremost thing. You must have a certain level of patience to do so. If the wife or girlfriend gets angry too while the husband or boyfriend is still angry, the situation is bound to go out of control.

Mutually Decide a Signal to Aware Him of His Anger - If your man has recognized and realized that he is short tempered and has a problem, then it has become actually easy for both of you to control it. May be both of you can work out a signal for his temper. Whenever he is angry and is almost ready to flare up, you can give him a signal. The signals may either be a song, a whistle or few pre-decided words.

Do not Tolerate His Temper Always - As I said earlier, that it is not wise to reply back or counter him whenever he gets angry. But friends, it is equally important for you to make him understand that he is wrong on his part. Do not make it a habit to tolerate his temper whether it is justified or a baseless one. The next time you boyfriend gets angry and aggressive, do not stay quiet or argue. Make it clear that he is wrong and just walk out of the room. Let him know that he has hurt you.

Nagging Nature - Warning Signs

Since I wrote about some warning signs for those in a relationship, I guess mentioning the warning signs of being a nagging girlfriend or wife would definitely be welcomed. To some extent I could relate myself with this subject as for past few months even I have transformed into a nagging girlfriend. But fortunately I was alarmed by my behavior myself before being told by my boyfriend.

Nagging in a relationship can actually be a barrier between the couples. It is for both the partners to understand that nagging by husband or the wives (mostly) can be justified at times. But nagging as a habit day and night is for sure a mood spoiler. Now before I prolong it any more, here are few signs for females to improve their behavior with their men.

You Call Your Boyfriend Every Hour for Some Chores - The moment he picks up phone, he says ' I remember I have to deposit money in the bank tomorrow'. You have been like a nagging wife or a girlfriend if this scenario relates to you. You are for sure on the roads of a nagging world if you call up your boyfriend every now and then to remind about some work.


Telling Him to Join Gym - He has been looking weak for some time and you think joining gymnasium would help him recover. Therefore you nag and nag. You never miss an opportunity to tell him its all because he does not exercise.

You Have Problem If He Sleeps Till late in the Morning - Rather than wishing him 'Good morning', you say - is this the time to get up? Girls by nature are more alert and prompt for their daily chores and activities. Therefore, they start nagging when they their partner is lazy or slow in his work. Most of the men complain of their wife's or girlfriend's behavior if the men sleep late till morning.

Complains are What Your Daily Telephonic Talks Comprise of - If you are a nagging wife, its very for you to figure this out. You need 'no warning sign'. It is evident. Evident from your conversation with your partner. All your telephonic conversation comprises of complains and you keep cribbing all the time.

You Do Not Miss a Chance to Point Out His Mistake - That becomes a girl's favorite pass-time. if you are a nagging girlfriend, you keep your brain's search engine working all the time to point out his mistakes. Whether small mistake or big blunder, you never ignore any of them.

You Keep Reminding Him of the Promise which He Could Not Keep Years Ago - It was a small promise that he could not keep and you have not forgiven him years later. Your nagging nature is evident from your behave, if you keep reminding him of his promise that he could keep.

It's an old saying that 'If you realize your mistake, you are almost forgiven.' So if you have discovered a nagging wife or girlfriend in yourself, you have taken the first step. All you need to do is work on it slowly BUT Steadily.

Possessive In a Relation - Few Warning Signs

Possessive - Does this word make you think of your boyfriend or girlfriend every time? Have I touched some corner of your heart with this question, read on if you nod in yes. While possessiveness at a very ground root level is good for a relation, the irony lies only when it goes beyond that. The possessive nature of a partner in a relationship turns out to be a burden for the person on the other end. The outcome henceforth is that the other partner struggles to get free of the relation. While insecurity is the basis of possessiveness and can be fatal for any relation.

Girls often complain, crib or praise their boyfriends for being too possessive for them. But over the past years, the ball has settled more in the other side of the court. And I would be biased if I say that its the men who are mostly possessive. That is, girls in a relationship have become more possessive for their male counterparts. Here are few warning signs for girls to indicate that you are being possessive. Take them seriously and avoid being a possessive lover.

Don't be Snoopy - Do not go searching about every detail about his old friends and search his mailbox.



You Keep a Minute-to-Minute Record of His Activities - Remaining in touch and maintaining proper communication is different. But, it is sheer possessiveness if you want to know every minute detail about his activities.

You Loose Your Temper If He Does Not Answer Your Call - Give him some space. For God's sake. He can be busy at work and even missing a call is human. Do not shout at him or get upset next time, if he is unable to respond to your phonecall.

It's Possessiveness if You Follow Him Everywhere - Save your relationship from dieing. Do not make it a habit of forcefully following him everywhere, whether to his office party or to shopping.

Quick, Easy and Special Halloween Gifts For Men - Weekend Special

Its Halloween today and it just struck me that I should gift something special to the man in my life - my boyfriend. Halloween though is not popular and isn't celebrated throughout the world, I feel there is no problem to choose it as a reason to have celebrations at home. After all, its weekend and everyone has the right to celebrate. While I opted for a sweet and special gift for my boyfriend, even you can rush to buy something that would make his weekend special. Here are some easy and attractive gifts ideas for Men on this Halloween.

Mini jack-o-lanterns Looking Fresh Strawberry - You can make them at home. They are easy to make and would definitely amaze your man. Treat him this weekend with these special strawberries. Just dip fresh strawberries in chocolate paste and nuts and garnish them to look like mini -jack-o-lanterns.

I bet your boyfriend or husband would love this special gift. Light some candles in your room and get into your romantic shoes to make his weekend really special. Serve him with mini jack-o-lanterns looking fresh strawberries.

Hot & Horror Movies Collection - Most men love to watch horror and hot movies. Just go to your near by shop and choose some really good horror movies. If you want just add in some hot movies CDs too.

Tips for Pampering Your Girlfriend

Its been a long time since I met the world outside through blog. This time I am not sorry and would not even apologize. Wonder why? The reason is simple - I was happy and enjoying more than what I do normally. I was busy in my relationship - with my five years long boyfriend. I loved being there exclusively for him as he made sure I felt special. Obviously with him, I have always felt so, but for past some days he had made me feel the most important person in his life.

While I am still in cloud nine, I would love to share that it was his ways of pampering that i lost my heart to. Infact, pampering is one of the easiest way to show your girlfriend that you love her. Here are some simple ways to pamper your girlfriend.


Make a Heart for Her - Be innovative. Use your imagination and creativity to make a heart for her where you can write the three magical words - 'I love you'. If you can make a heart shaped cake, that would be great. You can also try your hands on making a heart shaped card. Draw a heart on window panes. Girls love such romantic ideas.




Shower Her with Compliments - Make her feel that she is the best person in the world. Give her compliments that would lighten up her face and pamper her. Compliment her for her dresses, for her gestures and for everything you admire her for. Remember it costs nothing to give her compliments. After all, you love her and your compliments will bring a smile on her face.

Choose Her a Dress to Wear- It isn't necessary that you need to spend a lot to pamper her. If buying a special dress is not possible, how about choosing a dress for her to wear. Ask any woman, she would nod in a yes to say that its a difficult task to choose a dress from her own wardrobe. She would really love you if you make a choice for her at times. Keep the dress ready for her and surprise her once she comes out of washroom after bath.


Plan a Special Date with Her at Her Favorite Place - Every girl can tell you a place where she loves going often. One sure shot way to please and pamper your girlfriend is to plan a special date with her. The place can be a restaurant, a sea beach or even a special corner of your house. Let your romance buds blossom and make the date special with candles, small gifts, cards, flowers and good food.

Express Your Love in Public - If both of you are visiting a shopping mall and you get an opportunity to express your love for your girlfriend. Do not miss that opportunity if you know she would be overwhelmed. You may propose her for marriage or you may sing her favorite song if you can sing well.

Try these simple ways of pampering your girlfriend or just try doing something new. Do anything but with your true feelings she is sure to sense and feel it without a doubt. Show her that you love and care, She would definitely feel Pampered.

Busy in Festivals - No Time for Your Spouse

Its festive season and you have been busy doing your household chores religiously. Shopping, decoration, buying gifts, cooking and inviting guests at home - all this keeps you packed the whole day. Amidst all this, you rarely find time for your spouse. He or she is the one who is left unattended. And it is needless to say that you hardly think of romance during festivals.

You have been following this schedule for years now. But did you ever realize that your spouse might be feeling left out. Give it a thought and stay tuned for next post that says - 'Romance During Festivals Adds to Celebration'.

Romance While House Warming

I was away for a week as I had to shift my house. That was the reason for the delay in posting. A week long house shifting process had kept me too occupied to spare time for myself. While packing and unwinding stuffs at home took most of my time, the rest of hours were lost in getting the interiors of the new house designed.

It does happen with all of us. And what is also common amongst us is that we hardly find time for romance while shifting our houses. But despite the fact that I was damn busy, I had my share of romantic moments. Thanks to my darling boyfriend. His romantic ideas stole my heart, obviously once again. Here are some of the romantic ideas that he tried during my house warming. You can try them too. Here they go....


Order Food & Enjoy a Candle Light Dinner - Your beloved must be tired packing or unpacking. Order her favorite food and keep it a surprise for her. Arrange a small table and decorate the room with some flowers and candles. Keep the table ready with delicious food. Surprise her and dine together. Soft instrumental music will add to the romantic mood of the room.


Rub Your Partner's Shoulders - Nothing feels greater than a small neck & shoulder massage when you are tired. Rub your partner's shoulder to make him or her relax. That is one of the ways of being romantic.



Pull Her to a Corner & Give Her a Warm Hug - Let your romantic soul come alive. Whenever you get time, look out for an opportunity when you can take her into your arms and take her to a corner. Kiss and hug her. Express your feelings to her. Honestly, girls love it when you are naughty.


Shower Her with Hugs & Kisses Every Now and Then - Your partner will not feel the stress of so much work both at home or outside, if you stand by his/ her side. Just shower your love and kisses at short intervals if you are near by. Your love and care will add sparks to your romantic life.

Go explore new ways of romancing. Whether married or unmarried, romance is necessary amongst couples. So set the mood and let romance be in air.

Play In Rain

None of us are that old to play. Are We? Definitely not and why let age be a barrier in having fun through play. If its been long that you had some thrilling exciting moments with your family and kids, its time now. Get into your sports shoes and just set yourself free from inhibitions. Go out and just play in rain.

Rain - Fills You with Thrill - As you get into the ground to play in rain, you will feel the drops having a charismatic effect on you. Playing in rain fills you with thrill. No matter what is your age, you tend to feel young. Experience it for yourself if you don't believe me.

Take Your Kids Out Along With You - Kids love to play in rain and run around. Accompany your children in rain and play with them. Playing in rain with family is a interesting activity that helps you bond better with your family.

Let Mud be a Part of You - When it rains, do not just enjoy the rain drops rather also let mud be a part of you. Go out to play in nearby playground or park. Its fun to play in rain & mud with friends, children and even siblings. It makes you nostalgic and infuses a sense of fun, mischievousness and playfulness.

Splash in Rain water - Nothing beats the feeling of jumping in a small pool of rainwater in digs on broken roads. Let the child in you come alive again. Splash in rain water and play like kids.

Ideal Reason for Couples to Enjoy Together - I can agree that you might not find it comfortable playing in rain in a park or playground. But, if you have a private lawn or a secluded backyards, then just don't wait. Run to get wet with your partner in your arms. Just play in rain without being intimate. Couples either married or dating just love to spend time playing in rain.

Try Different Games - Go for different outdoor games in rain. Football is most preferred in rain. Adults, elderly or even small children like playing football in rain. You may also opt for other games basketball, throw ball or more.

Besides Fun, Playing in Rain is also a Good Exercise - If you thought playing in rain was merely a fun activity then get your facts corrected. Playing in rain charges up your body. Running around and hip hopping is also a good physical exercise.

Drenched in Love and Rain

Its been raining off late and the met department predicts it would continue to rain for another 48 hours. What better than this and what better one could have ever asked. As I said in my previous post, that almost everyone in love simply love rain. So what are you waiting for go get drenched in love and rain. Make the most of these special moments to love each other. Either married or still dating, this is the time for the couples to get soaked in love. Just be a little romantic to enjoy the rain showers and spend some quality time together. Here are few tips to enjoy the rain together.

Watch Rainfall Together - Nothing is great than watching rain pour on your windows' glass panes. What's important is to watch the rain together. Talk for hours with each other while it rains. Share and express yourselves with each other.

Cook Something Spicy For Her/ Him - Food for many are the best way of celebrating and enjoying. If you or your partner are a foodie, then you have the all the reason to treat yourself with something delicious. Cook something spicy and hot and enjoy eating it in rain. Spicy hot snacks makes an ideal combination with rains.

Get Drenched - If you love rain and love to feel the droplets on yourself, then go get drenched with your partner. But make sure you do not catch cold. Remember to take a shower in your bathroom after you have played and enjoyed in rain. This helps to prevent cold and fever.

Snuggle Up Each Other On a Couch in Your Balcony - Feel his warmth while snuggled up in his arms when it rains. Lie down on a couch together in your balcony to watch rain and enjoy the cool breeze blow past your cheeks. Enjoy a romantic date while relaxing at home together on a couch.

Go for a Stroll in the Rain - Walking together in rain is another romantic idea for the couples. Walking hand in hand when its drizzling is romantic.


Go for a Long Drive in Rain - While long drives on a normal day is loved by most, it has its unique charm when it rains. Just accompany your partner on a long drive in a car when it rains. Go to beach side or on a highway. Just pick him or her on your way back home and go for a long drive to enjoy the cool breeze and rain.

Though love does not need any reason to be or to be expressed, yet there are few factors that add to the effect. And Rain is Definitely one of them. These were just few ways to be romantic during rain. How do you enjoy Rain?

Play the Tourist For Her - Weekend Romance Specials

Weekends are special and they should remain that way. But your small inputs will make the weekends more special. Discover the all new way of romance. If your wife or girlfriend loves to travel, what can be better that spending the weekend traveling and staying at a hotel. Just take her out to visit the city or nearby tourist spots. There can be a number of places she may not have been to. Feel her nerve and plan this special weekend to lighten up romance in life.

Keep It a Surprise - The first rule when you plan a weekend is to keep it a surprise. Surprise in romance is very special to keep the charm intact.

Romantic Idea for the Busy

Busy is always the buzzword for most people these days. While life has become so much mechanical and selfish, no one has much time to spend on romance and lighter moments with your spouse. Forget about love, even love making has become a task for many couples. But despite all odds the challenge lies in keep the fire of love alive in each other. Its important for you to make him/ her feel special and show that you care so much. If you are busy and do not have much time to express your love for your special one, just try the following tips. Just feel the love in the air.

Greet Each Other With A Hug & Kiss - A hug reflects your warmth for your beloved. just give your partner a peck on cheeks whenever you go from or return to home. Such a gesture makes one feel wanted and special.

Spend few Bugs on Cards or Roses for Her - Try sending a bunch of roses and her/ him. They won't cost you much, but mean a lot. Call up a nearby delivery guy and ask him to deliver some red roses to your wife or husband. Or at times buy a meaningful greeting car on your way back home. Send it your spouse. Smiles received on such unexpected gesture of yours would definitely pay back the money spend on them.

Make Breakfast for Her - Married working men can easily please their wives by making breakfast for them at times. One can do that once or twice a week. Whenever it suits you whether weekend or on weekdays, make sure to get up earlier than your beloved and prepare the breakfast. You are bound to brighten her morning as soon as she notices the breakfast.

Short Massages while Working at Home - Your touch makes a difference to your partner. During your busy schedule, just sit next to him or her and give a short massage either for feet, shoulder or just some hair oil massage. Your few minutes of massage takes off the stress.



Cuddle Each Other - Find time to just cuddle each other either on a couch while watching television or working on any office assignment. Make sure not to disturb the partner who is working but just sit or lie next to him/ her. Let the other feel that he or she is loved and needed.

Call up to Say that You Miss Him/ Her - Give a short call within minutes of reaching office to say that you miss her or him. During your busy day pick your mobile and call up and have a few minutes of talk. Romantic text messages are the perfect ideas while you are at work.

Love and Rain

Ever thought that what is it that interrelates love to rain? Why does every youth, and why zero down on youth only, rather every person in love is almost in love with the rainy season too. Its natural and human to all of us. Lovebirds will definitely confide in me to say that rainy season definitely gives them a nostalgic feeling. Its all together a marvelous and heart stirring feeling to get drenched to enjoy the rain along with your partner.

A thought on the unusual co relation between the two different subjects would give you the answer itself. Both love and rain are beautiful and natural expressions. While the former is an expression for humans, whereas the latter is for nature. Love and rain bring in its fold unfathomable happiness, excitement and even sadness.

Its true that almost all couples in the world love rains or rainy season in some way or the other. I am in love too and love to enjoy every drop of rain. From incessant rains, lightening, cool breeze to thunderstorms all reflect the moods of nature and definitely stir my mood swings too.

Teen Suicide - Parents Need to Be Alarmed

A glance at the morning newspaper today left me thunderstruck. A teenage girl had committed suicide. Investigations revealed that the girl had not got admission in a reputed college of the city whereas all her friends had managed to get in. This fact had depressed her and turned out to be the reason for her to take such an stern step. The irony of the story was that the girl had secured 92% marks in her high school exams.


This news made me numbstuck and I was forced to think about the state of the girl and the kind of rapport she shared with her parents. It is true that children who do not like their parents and do not share any emotional bonding with any of the parents are more likely to fall prey to anti-social activities. For kids who commit suicide or even attempt to do one, there is definitely a lack of bonding between the parents and their kids. What is of more importance is that parents especially those of teenagers should be alarmed. Just read on to find out how you as a parent can be more responsible parent.

Gel With Your Teen - It's important as it fills in the gap between you and your child. You need to forget the age difference and be friendly with them. Gelling with your kid whether small or a teenager strengthens the bond between the parents and child. Talk to them, share yourself. This will consequently make them close to you and they will open up sharing their secrets to you.

Spend Time Especially On Weekends - Weekends are actual time when either your child is alone at home away from friends or is just busy watching television. You should ensure that your teenage child does not feel left out. Try spending some time with your child on weekends.

Discuss Instances 'Related to Suicide or Crime' - I do not advocate talking 24 x 7 about any such matter, but then you should be well aware of how your child thinks about the same. Few mild debate sessions also help the parents to read their mind.

Quiz Them to Know More - There comes your parental skills blended with your intellect. Know your child inside out and quizzes & situation based narrations are easy way to understand her/his thought process. For example - Narrate some story and ask them questions like 'What would you do if you were in that situation?'

Have & Show Faith in Your Child - Trusting your child is definitely compulsory, but what is more important is that your child realizes this fact. For this, at times you can hand over some responsibility to her/his that gives her the feel that you trust your child. At times you may also praise your kids in front of kids and say that you have a lot of faith in them. ( You need to be articulate in saying that, so that your child understands that it is not bad marks or any misbehavior that will affect your love and trust.)

Just be a friend to your child.

Is Sex More of a Task than Pleasure?

Did that leave you in thoughts for a while? If so, its human and happens with most of the people around us. For most of the married couples, sex becomes more of a task at some point in life and pleasure takes a back seat.

Most of the married couples would confide in saying that sex has become more of task for them. And ask them why, pat comes the reply because their partner wants sex and they just can't say 'no'. This situation is more common with women. After few years of marriage, they loose interest in sexual activities resulting in either a disturbed married life or just stretching their married life. When talking about women, you cannot rule out the possibility for the same for men. Many men also get bored of sex and make love just for the sake of doing it for their partner.



Why Does Sex Become a Task

Its more of Forced Sex Most of the Time - Thats the actual cause why it turns out to be a task. Anything that is forced on you tends to become a task that you need to complete. It happens so with sex too. Amongst married couples, initially sex is forced on woman by the man. Any woman does not like it and hence what results is a forced activity that becomes a task for her.

Monotony in Sex - Lack of knowledge about sex brings in stagnation and a major cause to loose interest in the same. Everyone likes excitement, pleasant surprises and a sense of newness. Sexual activities carried out in the same way without any thrills actually make it monotonous for many.

One of the Partners is More Demanding - Pleasure takes a backseat in sexual activities when either the male or female has a bent for sex. Though its not forced sex, but if one of the partners becomes more demanding, the other has to at times indulge in sex unwillingly.

Sex is Just Not About Intercourse, There is More To It - And that is foreplay and afterplay. Its important as it keeps the excitement level high. One needs to be involved in some or the other kind of foreplay rather than bumping into each other for intercourse. And post intercourse, afterplay is also vital. This helps in building a strong bond between the couples and keeping the fire alive.

Responding to Body's Physical Needs, Despite of Shortage of Time for Each Other - Every man or woman's bodies have their needs that need to be satisfied. That is the case in many couples. Though one does not have much time for each other, it becomes almost necessary to fulfill sexual needs of your own body. Shortage of time then leads you to spend less time with your partner. And then makes making love a task for you.

Marrying A Mumma's Boy - Save Yourself

Don't blame me for this judgement, but its just a thought that deserves a thought. The other day I met a friend of mine, she seemed worried and moreover disturbed. We chatted for a while and it was only then that I found out the reason behind her long face. It was her husband and his undeliberate behaviour that were giving her sleepless nights. My friend was married merely six months ago and to have a disturbed married life so soon was actually a pain.

It was difficult for me to understand her problem that time, but back home while I thought over the situation, It almost made me muddled. Being a Mama's boy is not something to be defied, but what is bad is being one completely. For men, things like this can be normal, but through a woman perspective, it is quite depressing. If you are a man, try being in women's shoes to understand the following situations.

Mom's the World, No Space for Wife or Girlfriend - That's 100% true for any of Momma's Boy. He can see nothing beyond his mother. Then why the hell did he get married? Sexual needs? That's all. Such men deserve to be sent to brothel. Mom should be the world for one and all but a wife too needs Her space in your heart.

A Momma's Boy Won't Move A Step Ahead Without His Mother - He needs to be spoon fed. Parental consultation is appreciated but to some extent he needs to stand up for himself and take his decisions. Such men are actually dumb and lack the sense of self respect.

If At Home, Spends Most of Her Time With Mother - A married momma's boy is difficult to handle. The worst has to be faced by the wife. On a holiday or on weekend, he spends most of his time with his mother. What is the wife supposed to do when he is busy with his mother.

Words That Make Her Smile

Most of the women I would say are simple at heart. One does not need to do much to please her. A small gift, a smile, a rose, a greeting card are few small things that would easily help you take her heart away. But this goes without saying that you need to be genuine and have true feelings for her. While all these cost atleast a few bugs, there is something that comes completely free. And that are - words, beautiful, charismatic and effective. Here are few words that will surely charm her.

• You Have Made My World Beautiful
• Your Voice Rings A Bell Inside Me Somewhere (now please don't go on to say where)
• I Can Do Anything For You
• If I Knew You Would Bring So Much Happiness In My Life, I Would Have Fallen In Love With You Long Before
• Being Around You Fills Me With So Much Energy
• I Wanna Grow Old With You
• You Are Most Beautiful Women I Have Ever Met & Could Ever Imagine
• I Am All Excited To Tie A Knot & Spend All My Life With You

Words as is said are the most powerful tool one can possess. Apart from those three magical words, try few words woven with your emotions. Say those words to her and just watch them cast their spell around ...

Sarcasm In A Relationship - Keep It At Bay

Your relationship is at stake, if you involve a lot of sarcasm in your talks. Men have a lot of ego that is basically woven into their nature. No offenses to anyone, but they have this habit of commenting sarcastically on everything around.

If my views are to be taken into account, then sarcasm is one of the few things that will surely put an end to a relationship. Though sarcasm is just a form of commenting on anything rather than joking, it has more of negativity involved when used in a relationship.


Men though do not mean much when they pass a sarcastic comment on their partner, but at the same time it is also true that they hardly realize the impact of their words. For them, it might be a joke but it's possible that person on the receiving end might not like it resulting in rise of repercussions. Taking instance of a married couple, often the husband enjoys giving a witty remark on his wife's parents. While some women have learned to take it easily, others get hurt.

Being just a sneering or cutting remark, I do not say sarcasm should not be a part of life, but definitely one should watch their words and MORE THAN THAT THEIR TONE of saying anything sarcastically. After all your relationship might be at stake.

Anger - The Last Word in a Relationship

Short tempered by nature, I have had the taste of loss in a relationship due to my anger. Being in a state finding it difficult to control my anger, I have often paid the price for it.

Talking about anger, its important that we speculate and find out the reasons behind our anger. Below are the few reasons that actually disappoint boys and girls and irritate them to the extenet of getting angry.

• 'No' to AnyThing of Desire
• Rude Behaviour of Partner
• Acceptance And Later Denial of Anything
• Preaching of the Partner
• Ignorance

Patching up After Fights

It's difficult for some, whereas easy for others. But what counts at the end of the day is that it should happen - patching up. Couples married or unmarried find it extremely difficult to patch up after fights.

At times, its the ego between the individuals, at times the situations. Here is how you can patch up with your spouse after fights. These are tried and tested waysw that have really worked, at least for me. I am sure these will work for you too.... Here they go..

When You Have Fought - Just Keep ur Ego Aside - Try hard not to involve this three alphabet letter to have a room in ur relationship. Ego between couples can be dangerous.

Say Sorry - Just Say It - sorry is the simplest and the easiest way that will help you patch up with your love of life.

But Initiate - But remember to initiate as this is important. This will help you gain respect in the eyes of your partner. God Firbid, if you fight again, next time your partner might be saying sorry to you first.

Forget Your Grudges - Don't waste your time in speculation and grudges. Whatever misunderstanding you have, whatever problems you face, just forget.

Once Fought, Do Not Let The Fight Stay With You - Couples often fight and then do not talk for hours. Its common and was the same case with me too. When I used to have fight with my boyfriend, I remember not talkingto him for hours and even days. But thanks to boyfriend, I learnt how not to make the fights serious and traumatic. He is a darling and always advised me that we should keep our fights aside. And thats his piece of brain that I am offering as an advice to everyone.

I do not say that you should forget the reason for the fight, rather you should forget the fight and behave completely normal. Just be yourself, as if nothing happened. Trust me, this will make your relationship a special one..

Bored With Him, Yet in Love - Start AFresh

Me and my boyfriend have been in love for the past four and half years. Despite the fact that we almost fought 24 hrs on telephone, we were madly in love with each other. But there was a time when we were almost bored of each other. Boring telephonic conversations, blame game, rifts and sleepless nights, that's all we were left with.

Though an unmarried couple, we never flirted with each other or ever wanted to freak out with each other. There had been instances when we were on verge of break up, but could not because we simply DO NOT WANT TO. At the same time, we wanted to feel the taste of happiness and contentment. This was when me and my boyfriend decided to Start Fresh on Our Relation. A few changes that we adopted to were boon in disguise. Here is how we started fresh to nurture OUR Relationship..

We Began Ignoring Each Other's Mistakes - That laid the cornerstone of rejuvenating our relationship. We followed the mantra -"To Forgive is Divine" and did not pay much heed to small mistakes.



Kept A Day Exclusively for Each Other - A day for each other was kept aside. We almost tried to spend the day hours together. We chatted, shopped, exercised, ate and laughed with each other. Swimming together and sharing jokes was what both of us loved doing.

It Was Time to Say Bye to Longish Telephonic Conversation - Phones though are the best way to remain in touch. But often, telephonic conversation lead to mis-communication. It happened with us also. Unable to see each other talking and the expression, we often misunderstood each other and has a fight. Therefore, cutting down our telephonic conversation short was a great idea.


We Dined Together Almost Thrice A Week - We are neither married nor are in a live-in relationship. Both of us just stay miles away from each other. Therefore we planned to eat together at night. Since it was not possible every night, we chose to have our dinner together on every alternate day. Dining together did wonders to our dying relation. We discussed everything face-to-face and trust me it was better than talking on phone.

Developed Interests in Each Other's Interests - Being very different from each other, we had different interests. To understand each other better and respect each other choices, we carefully observed each other to find our interests. I love reading English novel and interacting with people. And he loves music, dancing and sleeping.

It was completely a joyous feeling to explore others interests and learn something new. He read several books and chatted with my friends. I definitely reciprocated by listening to his favorite songs, joining dancing classes and definitely sleeping for long hours. Today, we agree that it gave us immense pleasure to do so.

All our efforts paid. And here WE Are - Smiling, Sharing, Relaxed, Energetic, Flirtatious, Passionate and definitely not Bored..

His One Liners That Disturb Me The Most

Women are soft by nature. Though they can easily handle some serious issues, it might not be the same with something minute. Even a rude gesture or unexpected refusal on an trivial matter may disturb her and take away her peace of mind.

Women get disturbed mostly with badly framed sentences, especially one liners. If you were to ask a man about any of his one-liners that he thought might be disturbing him, he would be clueless. Or he might just say that he never said something that bad.



That's why I thought it was always better to ask women. And this what some of the women answered on being asked - "what is your boyfriend or husband's one-liner that disturb you the most?" Pat came the replies, that are -

-> His All-time Favorite Remains to be - "So Now I need to take even my decisions according to you."

-> Hard to Hear - " I was never like this before." He almost seem to say that I have made his life a hell.

-> "Teach and Preach Only After You get A Degree for It."

-> "Don't You have Another Work Left."

-> "It's None of Your Concern."

-> "Why Do You Keep Scolding me All the Time? Am I a Kid to be Taken Care of?"

-> "It's Not Possible For Me, Ever."

-> "You Have Been Dominating Me for So Many Years."

-> "Why the Hell Did You Do that? I am Happy With My living Style."

-> "Why Will You Care About Me? Who Am I?"

-> "You Will Never Understand me?"

When men say these lines or something similar, very little do they think about its effect. Wish they realized.... !!!

Forget Your Grudges On Weekends

Ever wondered why do we have Weekends? Yes the obvious is that we need a break from work and some rest at home. But what's more important is that we remain at peace. Life is too short for quarrels and rifts. While we spent most of our time running around and its almost human for all of us to behave rudely at times....We understand ..But weekends are not for such pity things ....

Wasting Weekends - there are couples who do not realise the importance for these days. they spend time fighting over trivial matter. Some even go to the extent of referring to some arguments that happened long ago. Why waste your weekend that way?? lets bygones be bygones...

Stop The Blame Game - Throwing the ball in others' ceourt is easy. It feels worse when you are at home in solace and your partner blames you for frivolous things.

Misunderstandings to be Understood Later - Stay together at home and you have a lot of free time..there are chances that any of the partners starts a heated coversation. But make sure you do not waste it in clarifying any misunderstandings.

Add More Energy and Zeal to Your Relationship on Weekends - Bond together with your spouse or your sweetheart and make the most of it. Give him & her loads of hugs and kisses. Snuggle each other, smile, laugh and make her world around a lot merrier for yourself...

Enjoy your Weekend...They Are Precious.

Get Into Her Shoes This Saturday

Your darling puts in so much effort to make your life simpler and has made your life beautiful with her presence. While surprises are common for you from her side, Just go out of the way do something different for her. Make her feel special this saturday.

Just give her a break - make her relax. She must be tired of managing things alone...let her sit at home and enjoy this weekend, while you manage the home for her.

Take Her Out For Special Weekends - Its been long that both of you travelled for long or spend some time tohether. Plan few days ahead or almost spontaneously. Take her to her favourite place or go spend some time in country side.

Try anything, I am sure your wife or girlfriend will love any and all of them....Give her a Treat This Saturday. Just notice the change in her, See your love blossom and spread its fragrance around.. Enjoy!! :)

Make His Weekend Special

Love amongst couples is not just about making love. Its more about geling with each other!! If you feel the charisma between both of you have been lost somewhere, then its time for you to ignite some spark. And since its a friday, you have all the time to rejuvenate him with your love. So just make the most of this weekend and set his pulse racing...

Shed Your Inhibitions - He is your soulmate, why leave space for any inhibitions. Forget the world behind. Your passion for him will definitely reflect in all your moves and efforts.

Give A thought On What He Likes - Sit quietly for few minutes to recap on things that he liked or still has interest in. It can either be anything under the sun.

Look Sexy - Dress up in a sexy evening gown. Pay special attention to your make up. Keep it light yet sparkling. Choose a dress that looks best on you. He is sure to go mad again after you.

Decorate Your home With Candles - When he comes home this Friday evening, give him a surprise. Let the electric bulbs and chandelier be switched off. Lighten every corner with beautiful candles. Beautiful lighting is an easy way to attract your husband's attention.

Make Him Feel Nostalgic - If its been long that you had a look at your wedding album together, this is the best time. Sit with him, when he relaxed. Photographs have the power to turn any and everyone nostalgic. Try recalling some beautiful memories and share them with him. Just notice the smile on his face. Your magic is working on him.

Lie Down in A Bathtub With Him - Before he is home, get the bathtub ready with fresh cold water. Add some rosewater and rose petals to it. You may also add some mild and refreshing soap gel to the water in tub. When he has come back home, eat together. Post dinner just lie down in the bath tub with him. Spend some time together enjoying the romantic moments to fullest.

Most of the time, our hectic lifestyle eats up all the pleasures of life. Make sure the huff and puff does not affect your relation with your spouse. Small efforts in relationships make a huge difference...Think of Something That would Excite Him This Weekend and will make it Memorable for Him for Lifetime....Happy Weekend....

Reasons Why Husbands Change After Marriage

In the previous post, I quickly ran over some of the common problems or moreover behavioral issues that wives face with their husbands post marriage. Now, it would be completely biased if I do not throw some light on the husband's condition or you can say on the reasons behind their behavioral changes. Here is what the husbands have to say in defense to these complaints and allegations.

Sex has Taken A Back Seat - I know it is only the second thing after compatibility that keeps a couple happy together. But definitely sex is important for both the partners. Our sexual life is almost at stake as she never seem to be interested in it. We almost sleep apart and my wife does nothing to seduce me. I have always been co-operative and soft about sex. But still wonder what has made her say no to sex?

Lack of Excitement - One of the husbands believed that it is not his behavior, but more of his wife's behave that has changed after marriage. She seems to be too cool sans any excitement. Earlier she was a power woman always ready to greet you and new challenges with a smile. Now she seemed to be so boring. Where has the excitement gone?

She is Always Shabbily Dressed - Her beauty and dressing sense was what I lost my heart on at the first instance. Look at her now, she is always in her old night gown and her hair is always untidy. I gift her the best of dresses every now and then, but they are all piled up in her cupboard. Doesn't she know men love pretty women and she was one. I love her still but her attire and looks doesn't make my heart pound.

Television Soap Operas Are All That She Talks About - Intelligence was her virtue and pre-marriage she almost left me fumbling for words in any kind of debate & discussions. I loved talking to her on anything under the sun. What is left for now is just mere stupid daily soaps. She watches them day and night and if she talks she discusses them with me. God, save me.

No Time For Me - Wonder, what has made her so different. She has become one of those women who gossip whole day in neighbourhood or on phone. If she is left with anytime apart from back fence talking, her household chores keeps her busy. In just a few months of marriage, she does not find any time to spend it with me.

I Too Need Space - People, I was and I am still an individual . Why does she blame that I spent time out with friends. I never asked her to seclude herself and not meet her friends. I need some space where I can hang out with friends. I love to spend some time with my old friends and I guess there is nothing wrong with that. My wife needs to understand that.

He Is No More The Man Whom I Married !!

She burst into tears to say - "You are no more the same man I married." I heard Mr. Federer sharing his personal problem to his friend. He went on to say that his wife is almost prepared to give him divorce and he was unable to discover what is wrong with him. Mr. Federer said, "I am still the same, what has changed? I love her so much, I work so hard to give her and our kids all the comfort of life."

Well, this scenario has become common amongst couples worldwide. No one knows much about it as why and when it happens or happened. Women are blindfolded in love and as a matter of fact even men are. But as the time passes post marriage, things change and so does your relation with each other. Over emotional by nature, women are most affected with their spouse's behavior.

When in love in early days of dating, every woman feels that her man is the just the perfect choice for her. But few years or at times few months after marriage, she sees a new face of the same man whom she thought she knew very well. There is a sudden change in husband's behavior, likes and dislikes. It seems that she has now faced the reality and ends up on - He is not the man I Married. What made her say that? Question is provocative but what are the answers? Read on to find out what complains women often make post marriage. What is it that she thinks has changed? Here are few common & uncommon clamors and complaints of wives to their husbands.


He Listened Patiently To Me Earlier, Now He Just Walks Out of the Room - He was different when we dated together. He made sure he heard to my each and every word seriously. What has gone wrong now, he doesn't want to listen to even the most important matters. He just walks away from the room.

I was the First Person Whom He Said Good Morning To, Now he hardly Says that Ever - Before we tied knots he called me every morning to say Good morning while he was still on bed. I do not remember him waking up without wishing me good morning. At times he kept sleeping till the evening as my mobile phone was out of network and he could not wish me good morning. That was one of his way special ways of expressing love to me. Forget about good morning, now, he doesn't even bother to say 'bye' while leaving home for job.

Was a Mad Lover, Always Wanting to Spend Time With me. Now He is Hardly Around Me - I never knew it would happen and that too so early. He is always out of home for work or with friends partying all night.

He Never Missed a Chance to Be Close to Me When We Were Seeing Each Other. NOW? - Its almost depressing to admit that he has changed so much. No Hugs, No Kisses, He Seemed to have lost interest in Me.

He was My Chocolate Man, Wonder What Went Wrong - I am completely in love with chocolates. That was how he impressed me. He brought chocolates for me every day in different packings. Honestly it was this attribute for which I lost my heart on him. We have been married for an year now and its almost 11 months that he even brought one for me. My Chocolate Man has melted.

Hmmm.. with so many complaints and moreover dissatisfaction amongst the wives, remaining the same guy as ever seem to be almost mandatory. But why do the husbands change post-marriage? What do the men have to say about this? Stay tuned to find out the reasons for their behaviour.